Did something change in how you relate to your spouse?
Surviving an Affair or an Attachment Injury
As devastating as an affair can be on a relationship, it is recoverable. An affair is a traumatic event which undermines the security of the attachment bond in the relationship. Affairs can have varying degrees of attachment significance. Some incidences of infidelity may be experienced as attachment injuries and others may not. In such cases the other partner is the agent of the trauma. If such traumas have attachment significance they are termed “attachment injuries” and must be addressed in couple therapy if the relationship is to substantially improve and become stable.
It is the isolation of such incidences that evokes a sense of helplessness that is the essence of the trauma experience. Whether an attachment injury occurs or not, these events overwhelm the coping capacities, and define the experience, in this case the relationship, as a source of danger rather than a safe haven in times of stress.
It is not only affairs that can result in attachment injuries. Events that evoke feelings of rejection or abandonment can also injure the relationship. Like, experiencing isolation from ones partner after the miscarriage of a child, can result in an attachment injury. It is the impact on how you view your partner as no longer being safe and responsive in times of deep vulnerable need that determines the injury to the relationship.
Attachment Injuries in Relationships: How Couples Counseling Can Help
Attachment injuries are a common issue in relationships. They can occur when one or both partners have experienced early childhood trauma or neglect. This can lead to a number of problems in adulthood, including difficulty trusting others, difficulty forming close relationships, and difficulty managing emotions.
If you are struggling with attachment injuries, you are not alone. Couples counseling can be a helpful way to heal from these injuries and reconnect with your spouse. In couples counseling, you will learn about attachment styles and how they affect your relationship. You will also learn how to communicate more effectively and resolve conflict in a healthy way.
What are attachment injuries?
Attachment injuries are wounds to the emotional core of a person. They are caused by early childhood experiences that disrupt the development of a healthy attachment bond between a child and their caregiver. These experiences can include:
Physical or emotional abuse
Neglect
Abandonment
Inconsistent caregiving
Attachment injuries can have a profound impact on a person's life. They can make it difficult to trust others, form close relationships, and manage emotions. People with attachment injuries may also struggle with anxiety, depression, and addiction.
How can couples counseling help?
Couples counseling can be a helpful way to heal from attachment injuries and reconnect with your spouse. In couples counseling, you will learn about attachment styles and how they affect your relationship. You will also learn how to communicate more effectively and resolve conflict in a healthy way.
Here are some of the benefits of couples counseling for attachment injuries:
Improved communication
Increased trust
Reduced conflict
More intimacy
Greater emotional connection
Counseling for Attachment Injuries in Denver, CO
